"She's so Type A"

Are you a detail-oriented overachiever? you will love this one

Virgo Energy

I know everyone is so shocked, but I am, in fact, a Virgo! I am not the most knowledgeable of astrological signs, but I do know that Virgos are known to be very type-A people. According to Google AI, “Virgos are said to be logical, hardworking, and grounded, Virgos are associated with perfectionism and attention to detail”. Other than the grounded part, I sometimes align very closely with the description of my star sign. As I said before, I am not well-versed in astrology's details, but whenever I tell someone my sign, they always say, ‘That makes so much sense.’ Virgo is always known to be more introverted, which is a trait that I never acquired as a hardcore extrovert. My entire life, I have been the kind of person who is always volunteering to help organize or take control of a situation. When I started my professional career, I was always worried that it would come off as ‘bossy’ or ‘calculated’ to my coworkers. Then, I quickly realized that it was just society telling me that I automatically became those traits because I was a detail-oriented leader. Please explain to me how having my shit together and organized makes me bossy! The reason I chose to talk about this topic this week is because I have been noticing how my Type-A personality can benefit me in the professional and social space.

Being able to have lists ready for events has become such a lifesaver for me, especially because of my memory issues. I have been known to forget a thing or two just due to being focused on something else at the same time. Learning how to manage a list and a planner has been a lifesaver. As a person with anxiety and a touch of ADD, being able to focus and recall important conversations is harder for me than others. People tend to stereotype my kind of mindset as uptight or stiff, but if you know me, you would know that I typically can go with the flow. Okay, maybe not all the time, but sometimes I can be spontaneous ; )

Type-A + Relationships= ??

I have always overanalyzed how my organizational habits can impact the people I am with, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. In the past, men have never really cared enough to pay attention to the little things that I do. They never knew that I kept a list of things they liked just because I wanted to make sure I never forgot something I was supposed to remember. The parts of a type-a individual can mean that I can come off as hostile when I am just more direct than others. In a relationship, I noticed that it is important that I pick my moments of being more direct because it can come off wrong to those who don’t know me. Getting to know a man has always been easy for me because I am so nosy and curious. Letting a man get to know me is a whole other story let's be so real. It can be difficult to fully let your walls down because you never truly know what a man’s intentions are with your stories. I have grown used to having to dampen my personality at the cost of a man’s ego. That part of my life is no longer because why wouldn’t a man want someone as organized and hardworking as me?

It took me a long time to realize that liking being in charge was not this evil trait I had. When it comes to relationships, it is more than okay for the woman to take charge of a relationship every once in a while. I am so SICK of hearing that “who wears the pants in this relationship?”. How about we share a pair of pants where each of us has a pant leg because that is how it should be? Listen…I am not a stranger to wanting to feel protected by a man. Feeling that protection sometimes is just what you need to regain your strength to stand back up after falling. Just know that you are also a source of mental, emotional, and physical protection for him. The role most definitely goes both ways, I promise.

Coming to Terms

With all of that being said, you should know that coming to terms and embracing that side of your personality makes you shine brighter than ever. When I accepted that I liked order and structure in my habits, it only made me happier. THE RIGHT PEOPLE WILL UNDERSTAND THIS!!!! Never let someone try to tell you that you are too uptight just because you like to be early. NEVER let someone try to convince you to give them an explanation for something you don’t need to explain. Being a Type-A individual has so many perks that I always used to overlook because I thought it was a poor trait. Please, if you are reading this and share similar traits, know that they make you special! You are known to be hardworking, resilient, and ambitious. To me, those are all traits I want my partner to have because I will be damned if I end up with a lazy ass man. This is also not me saying that if you are Type-B, you have a terrible personality. My blog is just my way of talking about my personality with my life experiences. I hope that some of you read this and send it to someone you think will relate.

There are parts of my personality that I think clash with others who may be more go-with-the-flow or have different priorities. At this point in my life, I am laser-focused on my career and the friendships I’ve developed along the way. Not everyone my age thinks the same, and that is something I learned the hard way. As much as I would love to meet a man at this point, I know that it will happen when I least expect it. It takes me a little bit to understand how people can think otherwise. Take a step back to remind myself that not everyone is going to want the same things as me, and that is OKAY. To sum it all up, I am so glad I have my planners and lists because that is what makes my personality different and special.

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